Growing Up Feeling Entitled to Lifestyle of Parents
A far more common scenario involves a middle class family whose children grow up expecting the same lifestyle they were raised in as the automatic trophy for surviving the system of high school and/or college.
A fairly benevolent upbringing is often backfiring on young adults as they discover data about life for which they were wholly unprepared. The economy has put a quietus on the assumption that you don tennis shoes as a teen, go to college, get offered a job, buy a house. The youth of today are finding they can't begin to maintain both the lifestyle and the middle class status they were raised with–even as a college graduate with good grades.
Setting Financial Goals Which Allow for Success
Many current parents when they were young were able to glory in each accomplishment on the way to financial security because they were surpassing the educational and social level of the older generation.
Today's young adults may find themselves unable to easily surpass their own parents. (It can be noted that it is much easier to succeed as the offspring of parents "lower on the rung" than to find oneself trying to feel success in small accomplishments as a child of very successful parents.)
Perhaps it is time to involve children in financial matters enough to make them aware of the concept of earning. Maybe, in addition to helping plan which college to get into, discussion is in order about a career path and the need to achieve some degree of financial security.
Helping Children Understand the Concept of Earning
This need to know about the economy thrusts upon adults the duty of helping to posture kids for success. Parents might keep in mind the need for honesty while helping children face the economy.
Parents can point out to children often and early that what they've grown accustomed to doesn't just happen. People make it happen. The more personal investment a child has in this process, the more realistic will his or her expectations about the future. Consider letting children earn the stuff you otherwise might just give them.
Exposure to family finances, including time lines involved in earning certain items, will help combat the credit card mentality and the sense of entitlement which has brought so much agony to present adults. Children benefit from experiences which involve putting off short term rewards for long-term goals.
Instead of enabling teens to become mall addicts, try sitting them down for regular bill paying so they see where money goes as well as how decisions have to be made. Putting off this lesson in favor of present rewards will only compound pain which is sure to follow.
Paying with Cash to Help Manage Money
One look at the present world-wide financial issues can attest to the need for adults to receive the same training that children need. Making one's budget transparent within the family may provide an intergenerational learning of the finite nature of money. Spending with cash helps to clarify that concept.
They say when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Maybe this is a wonderful time to start raising children with financial responsibility by setting realistic goals, developing the concept of earning, and paying with cash. Kids need experience with handling money and long-term gratification. The bonus will be a society which can work for long-term gratification and live within its means.